The 30 best 2023 self help books

1. Be Useful: Seven Tools for Life by Arnold Schwarzenegger

In his highly anticipated self-help guide, "Be Useful," Arnold Schwarzenegger, the iconic bodybuilder, actor, and former governor, unveils the seven essential tools that have shaped his extraordinary life and career. With his signature bluntness and humor, Schwarzenegger offers a roadmap to personal fulfillment, urging readers to embrace hard work, open-mindedness, and a commitment to giving back. Through compelling personal anecdotes and insights gained from his unparalleled journey, Schwarzenegger demonstrates how these tools can empower us to overcome obstacles, achieve our goals, and live a life of purpose. By following the principles outlined in "Be Useful," readers will discover the transformative power of having a clear vision, embracing challenges, and using their unique abilities to make a positive impact on the world. As Schwarzenegger himself declares, "No one is going to come rescue you—you only have yourself. The good news, it turns out, is that you are all you need." Experience the motivational force of "Be Useful" today and embark on the path to a life of fulfillment and impact.

2. Hidden Potential: The Science of Achieving Greater Things by Adam M. Grant

In "Hidden Potential," renowned organizational psychologist Adam Grant challenges our assumptions about talent and achievement, revealing that progress is less about innate abilities and more about developing character and learning effectively. Through captivating stories and groundbreaking research, Grant demonstrates that we all possess untapped potential, regardless of our starting point. He introduces the concept of "character skills," such as perseverance, resilience, and adaptability, and explains how these qualities can be cultivated through deliberate practice. Grant also emphasizes the importance of creating opportunities for growth, both for ourselves and others, by embracing discomfort, seeking feedback, and surrounding ourselves with supportive mentors. "Hidden Potential" is an empowering guide that inspires readers to unlock their full potential, embrace challenges, and strive for continuous improvement. As Grant writes, "The true measure of your potential is not the height of the peak you've reached, but how far you've climbed to get there."

Awards:

• Goodreads Choice Award(2023)

3. How to Know a Person: The Art of Seeing Others Deeply and Being Deeply Seen by David Brooks

In his insightful and thought-provoking book "How to Know a Person," acclaimed author David Brooks explores the essential art of deeply seeing and being seen by others. Brooks argues that this ability not only enhances our personal relationships but also fosters a more just and empathetic society. He believes that we all have the potential to know and be known, but that this requires cultivation and practice. Through a blend of storytelling, psychological insights, and practical advice, Brooks provides a roadmap for fostering deeper connections with others. He emphasizes the importance of active listening, asking meaningful questions, and creating spaces for vulnerability and authenticity. By embracing the principles outlined in "How to Know a Person," readers can overcome the barriers that prevent them from forming genuine connections and unlock the transformative power of being truly seen and understood. As Brooks himself notes, "If you want to know a person, you have to be willing to see them. And to see them, you have to be willing to be seen."

4. Worthy by Jada Pinkett Smith

From the depths of vulnerability, global superstar Jada Pinkett Smith emerges with a raw and inspiring memoir, "Worthy" This gripping and honest account of her life journey invites readers into the innermost sanctum of her being, where she grapples with the complexities of womanhood, identity, and self-acceptance. With unwavering courage, Jada confronts her past traumas, including emotional abuse, substance addiction, and parental abandonment, unveiling the scars that shaped her into the resilient and compassionate woman she is today. Through her powerful narrative, Jada empowers readers to embrace their own authenticity, reclaim their power, and discover the transformative grace of self-love. "Worthy" is not merely a celebrity tell-all; it is a profound and relatable exploration of the human condition, reminding us that we all have the capacity to rise above adversity and live a life of purpose and fulfillment.

5. The Creative Act: A Way of Being by Rick Rubin

From the depths of his creative genius, legendary music producer Rick Rubin invites us on an extraordinary journey in "The Creative Act." This beautifully crafted guide transcends the realm of self-help, offering a transformative exploration of the artistic process and the power of embracing our innate creativity. Rubin, renowned for his ability to empower artists of all genres, unveils a profound and accessible philosophy that has guided his own illustrious career. Through a series of thought-provoking reflections and illuminating insights, "The Creative Act" challenges the conventional notions of artistic creation, revealing it as a fundamental aspect of human existence that extends far beyond the boundaries of specific disciplines. With Rubin's expert guidance, readers will discover how to cultivate a mindset that nurtures creativity, learn to navigate the inevitable challenges along the way, and ultimately find the courage to express their truest selves through the transformative power of art.

Awards:

• Goodreads Choice Award(2023)
• Barnes & Noble Book of the Year Award(2023)

6. Young Forever: The Secrets to Living Your Longest, Healthiest Life by Mark Hyman

Prepare to unlock the secrets to living a longer, healthier life with the groundbreaking guide, "Young Forever." Renowned Dr. Mark Hyman, a leading authority on longevity, reveals the definitive strategies for reversing disease, alleviating pain, and slowing down the aging process. This comprehensive guide challenges the misconceptions surrounding aging and empowers readers to reclaim their health and vitality. Dr. Hyman emphasizes, "Your body is the smartest doctor. Pay attention to it." By understanding the biological hallmarks of aging and addressing their root causes, "Young Forever" provides a transformative approach to living a fulfilling life for years to come.

7. Soul Boom: Why We Need a Spiritual Revolution by Rainn Wilson

In his captivating book, "Soul Boom," Rainn Wilson, beloved actor and spiritual seeker, delves into the profound need for a spiritual revolution in our troubled world. Drawing upon insights from ancient wisdom and his own personal journey, Wilson argues, "The trauma that our struggling species has experienced in recent years...is not going away anytime soon." He believes that existing systems are failing us, and that a "Soul Boom" is essential for personal and global healing. Wilson's unique perspective and relatable approach make this book an invaluable guide for navigating the challenges of our time. By embracing the sacred and divine within ourselves and others, we can create a more just, compassionate, and fulfilling world for all.

Awards:

• Audie Award(2024)

8. How Not to Age: The Scientific Approach to Getting Healthier as You Get Older by Michael Greger

"We don't need Big Pharma to keep us feeling young—we already have the tools." With this bold claim, renowned physician and nutritionist Dr. Michael Greger embarks on a groundbreaking exploration into the science of aging and longevity in his latest book, "How Not to Age." Drawing from cutting-edge research, Dr. Greger unravels the secrets to slowing down the effects of aging and preventing the chronic diseases that often accompany it. Through evidence-based strategies and accessible explanations, "How Not to Age" empowers readers with the knowledge and tools to preserve their physical and mental vitality as they grow older.

9. The Book of Charlie: Wisdom from the Remarkable American Life of a 109-Year-Old Man by David von Drehle

In today's fast-paced world, we often get lost in the hustle and bustle of life, forgetting the value of human connection and the pursuit of a meaningful existence. "The Book of Charlie" offers a poignant reminder of these essential truths through the remarkable life of Charlie White, a man who lived to the extraordinary age of 109. David von Drehle, a veteran journalist, had the privilege of befriending Charlie and learning firsthand the secrets of his longevity and unwavering optimism. Through Charlie's captivating story, we discover the power of resilience, adaptability, and the indomitable spirit that resides within us all. "The Book of Charlie" is an inspiring testament to the human capacity for growth, resilience, and the pursuit of a life well-lived.

Awards:

• Goodreads Choice Award(2023)

10. Build the Life You Want: The Art and Science of Getting Happier by Arthur C. Brooks, Oprah Winfrey

Set in the realm of human emotions, "Build the Life You Want" is an empowering guide to unlocking greater happiness in our lives. Co-authored by renowned happiness expert Arthur C. Brooks and global icon Oprah Winfrey, this book draws upon cutting-edge science and real-life experiences to provide a practical roadmap for building a fulfilling life. Through the pages of this book, we learn that emotions are not obstacles to be overcome but rather valuable signals that can guide us toward a more joyful existence. By embracing the art and science of emotional self-management, we can cultivate stronger relationships, find deeper meaning in our work, and nurture a profound sense of purpose. Whether you seek to improve your current circumstances or embark on a transformative journey, "Build the Life You Want" offers a wealth of insights and actionable strategies to help you create a life that truly resonates with your values and aspirations.

Awards:

• Goodreads Choice Award(2023)

11. Look for Me There: Grieving My Father, Finding Myself by Luke Russert

If you loved the classic memoir "Wild" by Cheryl Strayed, then you won't want to miss "Look for Me There," an equally poignant and transformative journey of self-discovery. In this captivating memoir, Luke Russert embarks on an extraordinary global odyssey, following in his late father's footsteps but ultimately forging his own path. Through vivid travelogues and intimate reflections, he explores themes of grief, family, and the relentless pursuit of purpose. "Look for Me There" is a testament to the healing power of travel and the importance of embracing our own unique journeys.

12. Same as Ever: A Guide to What Never Changes by Morgan Housel

Are you seeking guidance amidst an ever-changing world? "Same as Ever" by Morgan Housel, published in 2023, presents a counterintuitive approach to understanding the future by exploring what remains constant. This book unveils the paradoxical truth that "the best way to understand the changing world is to start with what stays the same." Through a collection of engaging narratives and insightful examples, Housel invites you to identify the timeless principles that shape our experiences. By mastering this knowledge, we gain the ability to anticipate major events, not by gazing into a hazy future but by exploring the unwavering foundations of human behavior. "Same as Ever" empowers us to optimize risk, seize opportunities, and cultivate a life not defined by financial success but by genuine fulfillment.

13. The Garden Within: Where the War with Your Emotions Ends and Your Most Powerful Life Begins by Anita Phillips

In today's fast-paced world, we often get lost in our daily routines and forget the importance of our inner selves. "The Garden Within" by Dr. Anita Phillips, a New York Times and Wall Street Journal bestseller, offers a revolutionary approach to well-being by guiding us to embrace our emotions. Dr. Phillips challenges the notion that emotions are something to be feared or controlled, but rather the key to unlocking a life of authenticity, fruitfulness, and power. Through a blend of faith, neurobiology, and practical exercises, this book provides a roadmap for cultivating a thriving emotional garden within ourselves. By nurturing this inner sanctuary, we can break free from internal conflict and experience the abundant life we were created for. "The Garden Within" is a timely and essential guide for anyone seeking to connect with their true selves and live a life of purpose and fulfillment.

14. 8 Rules of Love: How to Find It, Keep It, and Let It Go by Jay Shetty

In today's complex world, navigating relationships can be a daunting task. Jay Shetty, the bestselling author of "Think Like a Monk," offers a guiding light with his latest book, "8 Rules of Love." Drawing on ancient wisdom and modern science, Shetty unveils a practical roadmap for finding, keeping, and letting go of love. Through his eight transformative rules, he empowers readers to develop the skills necessary for lasting and fulfilling relationships. Whether you're seeking to win or lose together, define love, or heal from heartbreak, Shetty provides actionable steps to help you cultivate a love that transcends infatuation and becomes a source of deep connection and purpose. By embracing Shetty's transformative advice, you can unlock the potential for a love that is authentic, resilient, and eternally fulfilling.

Awards:

• Goodreads Choice Award(2023)

15. Built to Move: The Ten Essential Habits to Help You Move Freely and Live Fully by Kelly Starrett, Juliet Starrett

In "Built to Move," movement experts Kelly and Juliet Starrett unveil the secrets to a life of effortless movement and vibrant health. Drawing on decades of experience working with elite athletes and everyday individuals, they present a compelling case for prioritizing mobility as the key to long-term well-being. Through ten essential habits, readers are guided on a journey to enhance their physical capacity, reduce pain, and optimize their performance in all aspects of life. The book's innovative approach challenges conventional wisdom, emphasizing the importance of daily movement practices over strenuous exercise regimens. By adopting the Starretts' transformative principles, individuals can unlock the full potential of their bodies, live more fulfilling lives, and age with grace and vitality.

16. Outlive: The Science & Art of Longevity by Peter Attia, Bill Gifford

In "Outlive," Dr. Peter Attia, a leading longevity expert, challenges the conventional medical approach to aging, empowering readers to unlock the secrets of living longer, healthier lives. Drawing on groundbreaking research and his own clinical experience, Dr. Attia reveals a personalized roadmap for extending lifespan and healthspan. He challenges the notion that aging is inevitable, arguing that we can reshape our future by adopting a proactive approach to our health. Through a comprehensive exploration of nutrition, exercise, sleep, emotional well-being, and more, "Outlive" provides readers with the tools and knowledge to optimize their healthspan and create a life of vitality and purpose well into their later years. Dr. Attia's message is clear: we can all outlive our genetic destiny and live long, fulfilling lives by taking charge of our health today.

Awards:

• Goodreads Choice Award(2023)

17. Win Every Argument: The Art of Debating, Persuading, and Public Speaking by Mehdi Hasan

In "Win Every Argument," MSNBC's Mehdi Hasan, a master of debate and persuasion, unveils his arsenal of strategies for triumphing in any verbal joust. With wit and wisdom, Hasan shares the secrets of crafting compelling arguments, disarming opponents, and rising above the noise of social media. Drawing on his extensive experience as a journalist, anchor, and interviewer, he provides a practical guide to the art of rhetoric, empowering readers to communicate with confidence, clarity, and impact. Whether navigating workplace presentations or engaging in heated political debates, "Win Every Argument" offers a roadmap to success, equipping readers with the tools to make their voices heard and emerge victorious in the battle of words.

Awards:

• Audie Award(2024)

18. Drama Free: A Guide to Managing Unhealthy Family Relationships by Nedra Glover Tawwab

Have you ever found yourself torn between your love for your family and the deep wounds inflicted by their actions? In "Drama Free: A Guide to Managing Unhealthy Family Relationships" renowned therapist Nedra Glover Tawwab provides an insightful and empowering guide to understanding and overcoming these struggles. Drawing from her extensive experience, Tawwab sheds light on the complexities of dysfunctional family patterns, empowering readers to break the cycle and create healthier relationships. This must-read guide offers practical advice, compassionate support, and a roadmap to personal growth, helping you reclaim your life and honor the person you truly are.

19. The Good Life: Lessons from the World's Longest Scientific Study of Happiness by Robert Waldinger, Marc Schulz

According to a groundbreaking study conducted by Harvard University, the key to a fulfilling life lies not in material possessions or personal achievements, but in the strength of our relationships. In "The Good Life: Lessons from the World's Longest Scientific Study of Happiness" Dr. Robert Waldinger and Dr. Marc Schulz, directors of the Harvard Study of Adult Development, share their groundbreaking findings. Through captivating personal stories and research-based insights, they reveal that strong connections with others are the cornerstone of happiness, health, and well-being. Whether it's close friendships, loving families, supportive coworkers, or cherished community ties, the bonds we forge with those around us have a profound impact on our overall life satisfaction. Discover the secrets to building and maintaining healthy relationships, and unlock the key to a life filled with joy, purpose, and fulfillment.

Awards:

• Goodreads Choice Award(2023)

20. The Emotional Lives of Teenagers: Raising Connected, Capable, and Compassionate Adolescents by Lisa Damour

In the tempestuous waters of adolescence, emotions run high and often overwhelm the capacity of young minds to navigate them. "The Emotional Lives of Teenagers" by Lisa Damour serves as a beacon of guidance for parents seeking to understand and support their teenagers through this tumultuous journey. Drawing from extensive research and real-life examples, Dr. Damour unravels the intricacies of teenage emotions, explaining that mental health is not about "feeling good" but about having feelings that are appropriate to the situation, even if they are unwanted or painful. With practical strategies and compassionate insights, this book empowers parents to help their teens develop psychological awareness, emotional resilience, and the skills to manage their feelings effectively. Parents will discover how to approach common challenges, such as friction at home, anxiety, risky behavior, and the impact of social media, while fostering the strong and supportive relationships that adolescents need to thrive.

21. My Father's Eyes, My Mother's Rage by Rose Brik

Prepare yourself for a profound and emotionally resonant journey through the depths of human experience with "My Father's Eyes, My Mother's Rage" a captivating poetry collection by Rose Brik. This deeply personal and evocative debut explores the complexities of familial trauma, the wounds inflicted by both parents, and the raw emotions that stem from these experiences. Brik's verses delve into the profound impact of childhood adversity, domestic violence, grief, and mental health struggles, painting a relatable and deeply moving portrait of the human condition. Through her exploration of these universal themes, Brik's powerful words resonate with readers, offering solace, understanding, and a sense of shared experience. This is a must-read for anyone seeking to navigate the complexities of their own past, heal from trauma, and embrace the transformative power of self-love.

22. Right Kind of Wrong: The Science of Failing Well by Amy C. Edmondson

Prepare to reframe your perception of failure and unlock its transformative potential with "Right Kind of Wrong" by Amy C. Edmondson, an award-winning Harvard Business School professor and pioneering researcher in psychological safety. This groundbreaking guide challenges traditional views of failure, introducing a revolutionary framework for understanding and leveraging both simple and complex mistakes to cultivate growth and success. Through vivid real-life stories and practical exercises, Edmondson empowers readers to embrace a culture of psychological safety in which failures are welcomed as opportunities for learning, innovation, and resilience. This book will change your mindset, providing you with the tools and insights to embrace failure as a catalyst for personal and professional empowerment.

23. Building a Non-Anxious Life by John Delony

Contributor: Dave Ramsey(Foreword)

In the midst of an anxiety-ridden world, "Building a Non-Anxious Life" emerges as a beacon of hope, offering a transformative path to inner peace. Dr. John Delony, a renowned expert in mental health, guides readers through a profound exploration of the root causes of anxiety and empowers them with practical and actionable strategies to overcome its debilitating effects. Through the lens of six daily choices—choosing reality, connection, freedom, health, mindfulness, and belief—Delony unveils a roadmap to a life free from the shackles of anxiety. This must-read guide provides a comprehensive understanding of anxiety, its triggers, and the power we possess to rewire our thoughts and behaviors. Embrace the journey to a life filled with tranquility, resilience, and lasting well-being.

24. Disruptive Thinking: A Daring Strategy to Change How We Live, Lead, and Love by T.D. Jakes

In "Disruptive Thinking," the esteemed Bishop T.D. Jakes challenges us to embrace the audacious path less traveled, to awaken our disruptive potential and shape the world around us. Through this captivating exploration of the power of challenging the status quo, Jakes invites us to unlock our creativity, shatter limitations, and ignite lasting change. Whether you're a leader, a dreamer, or an everyday individual yearning to make a meaningful impact, "Disruptive Thinking" offers a profound roadmap for navigating the ever-evolving landscape of our lives. As Jakes reminds us, "The world is not waiting for the cautious. It is waiting for us. Ready to think differently?" Dive into the transformative pages of "Disruptive Thinking" and unleash your inner disruptor.

25. Call It What You Want by Alissa DeRogatis

In "Call It What You Want" Alissa DeRogatis pens a poignant tale of love, longing, and the complexities of modern relationships. Through the eyes of Sloane Hart, a hopeless romantic searching for her destined match, we navigate the bittersweet terrain of an unnamed yet intense connection with Ethan Brady. Their journey, marked by undeniable chemistry and unspoken boundaries, challenges societal expectations and explores the delicate dance of love without labels. As Sloane grapples with her desire for commitment and Ethan's guarded past, the novel delves into the complexities of defining love and finding the courage to embrace vulnerability. DeRogatis's evocative prose captures the raw emotions and uncertainties of navigating an "almost love" story, offering a relatable and thought-provoking exploration of intimacy, authenticity, and the elusive nature of true connection.

26. The Power to Change: Mastering the Habits That Matter Most by Craig Groeschel

In "The Power to Change," Craig Groeschel offers a compelling blend of biblical wisdom and practical strategies for achieving lasting transformation. Drawing on his own experiences of overcoming personal struggles, Groeschel reveals the secrets to mastering the habits that truly matter. Through a step-by-step approach, the book empowers readers to cultivate positive habits in their relationships, thoughts, and behaviors. With a unique combination of psychological insights and spiritual principles, "The Power to Change" provides a roadmap for breaking free from self-defeating patterns and unlocking the life God intended. Whether you seek to improve your physical health, strengthen your relationships, or find purpose and fulfillment, Groeschel's time-tested strategies will equip you with the tools you need to create real and lasting change.

27. Life in Five Senses: How Exploring the Senses Got Me Out of My Head and Into the World by Gretchen Rubin

In "Life in Five Senses," Gretchen Rubin uncovers a surprising path to greater happiness, creativity, and love: by harnessing the power of our five senses. After realizing she'd neglected these vital gateways to the world, Rubin embarked on a journey of self-experimentation, exploring the profound impact of sensory experiences on our well-being. Through a blend of cutting-edge science, philosophy, literature, and personal anecdotes, she reveals how connecting with the physical world through sight, sound, smell, taste, and touch can unlock a richer and more fulfilling life. Rubin's engaging narrative invites readers to embark on their own sensory adventures, encouraging them to find joy in the simple pleasures of life and to uncover the extraordinary within the ordinary. "Life in Five Senses" is a transformative guide for anyone seeking to enhance their perception, deepen their connection to the present moment, and create a life filled with vitality and love.

28. Choose Your Enemies Wisely: Business Planning for the Audacious Few by Patrick Bet-David, Greg Dinkin

Immerse yourself in the pages of "Choose Your Enemies Wisely: Business Planning for the Audacious Few" as renowned entrepreneur Patrick Bet-David unveils the secrets to turbocharging your business and achieving extraordinary growth. Bet-David's revolutionary 12 Business Building Blocks will ignite your drive, blending emotion and logic to create a formidable business plan. This is not just a guide to success; it's the fuel to propel you and your team towards unimaginable heights. With practical strategies and a focus on identifying and harnessing your enemies as a motivational force, this book empowers visionary entrepreneurs to break down barriers and establish lasting legacies. Whether you're a seasoned business leader or an ambitious dreamer, "Choose Your Enemies Wisely" will equip you with the tools and mindset to conquer the competition and ascend to unparalleled success.

29. Your Brain on Art: How the Arts Transform Us by Susan Magsamen, Ivy Ross

Embark on a transformative journey with "Your Brain on Art: How the Arts Transform Us" where authors Susan Magsamen and Ivy Ross unveil the remarkable power of the arts to enhance our lives. This groundbreaking book unveils the latest research in neuroaesthetics, revealing how engaging in artistic activities, from painting to music to storytelling, can positively impact our physical, mental, and emotional well-being. Discover how art reduces stress, improves cognitive function, fosters creativity, and strengthens community bonds. With compelling insights from artists, scientists, and healthcare practitioners, "Your Brain on Art" is an essential guide for anyone seeking to harness the transformative power of the arts. As Magsamen and Ross assert, "Just one art experience per month can extend your life by ten years." Dive into this engaging read and unlock the secrets to a more vibrant, fulfilling, and healthier life through the transformative power of the arts.

30. The Half of It: A Memoir by Madison Beer

Step into the unfiltered world of Madison Beer in "The Half of It: A Memoir" where she unveils the poignant story of her rise to fame, the struggles she faced behind closed doors, and the resilience she found within herself. From the glitz and glamor to the raw and unvarnished moments, Madison paints a vivid portrait of her journey in the spotlight. Through her honest and unflinching account, she reveals the toll that constant scrutiny and cyberbullying took on her mental health, and the empowering journey she embarked upon to heal and find her own voice. "The Half of It" is a deeply personal narrative that explores the complexities of fame, mental health, and self-love, reminding readers that even in the most curated online lives, there's always more than meets the eye. Madison's powerful words offer a beacon of hope for anyone who has ever grappled with self-doubt or the pressures of living in the public eye.